They look like best friends, sitting there and hugging, then falling about together laughing.
And yet, a year ago, it was a very different story.
Saraya was 18 months old when Patrick was born. And whilst Patrick wasn’t planned, we hoped that he and Saraya would end up as close as their elder siblings. That didn’t end up being the case though. From the day he was born, Saraya was insanely jealous. She went from being my perfect little baby to the devil in disguise. She would hit him, pinch him, kick him, push him. She really didn’t seem to like him. I used to say “watch it, Saraya, he’ll hit you back one day”, and yet she kept on. I could see that she was jealous, as she’d had me all to herself for 18 months. And now she had to share me, and she didn’t want to. So she acted out, always trying to get my attention.
I guess I wasn’t the most attentive mummy to her. I put more time into Patrick, because he was so tiny and he needed me, and of course James. Charlyse was just perfect and never demanded my attention. So that left Saraya. I feel so guilty now, thinking back, as I used to often leave her with Maribel (our maid) and go places without her. She would cry over nothing, and throw tantrums.
But then, it occurred to me – she needed more of my love. So I started giving her more hugs and kisses, and taking 10 minutes here and there throughout the day to spend with only her.
And I saw a change.
I’m not sure if it’s just because she’s growing up, or if it’s the fact that she no longer needs to “demand” attention, but she is so sweet these days, and caring, and thoughtful. She tells me I’m beautiful, and if I hurt my knee she will immediately kiss it better.
With Saraya feeling more “loved”, she is now more loving in return to Patrick. They play together, have a giggle together, get up to mischief together, and dance together.
That friendship, that closeness, that I had envisioned right at the beginning, may have taken a while to blossom, but I think it’s safe to say that it finally has.
They are best friends. And I love it.