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Photo a Day – February 12, 2012

Whitney Houston died today. Yet another talent most likely lost to drugs. And the whole world is in shock, grieving and crying.

Except for me.

There is no denying Ms Houston was an amazingly talented woman. With 415 awards, she was the most awarded female artist in history. And she was the only artist in history to have 7 consecutive hits. And deservedly so. Yes, this woman was definitely an extraordinary talent.

And now she’s dead. At 48 years of age.

Now, what I am going to say is not going to go down well with many people, but since this is my blog I am entitled to say whatever I want. And if anyone gets offended, I am terribly sorry. You’ll get over it though – no one ever died from being offended.

Millions of people are crying over the death of a woman who most likely died as a result of substance abuse. Yes, I know – substance abuse is a disease. And yes, I know – substance abuse ruins families. Of this I am sure. But let’s face it, she made the choice to take those drugs, to put that powder up her nose. No one forced her, she could have said no. Saying NO is actually easy, believe it or not. NO! See, there it is, that was so easy to say. I have been saying no my whole life. I have never, ever had any sort of drug because that word, NO, has always been easy to say.

Yes, what happened to Ms Houston is a tragedy. And I truly feel for her family, as they are the ones who suffering now. But there are greater tragedies in the world that no one cries over.

Do you see that picture above? That is my son, James. He is turning 8 in May, and he is the light of my life. Absolutely perfect in every way but one. And you all know what that is. Chances are, my son will be lucky to live to 20, and if he does make it to 20 then he most likely won’t live much past it. He’s dying. And there are so many others like him, not only suffering from Duchenne, but childhood cancer and Cystic Fibrosis and brain tumours and so many other diseases. There are also millions of children living in poverty in the third world, who would give anything for a bowl of rice. So many children dying, so many children who will never have the opportunity to grow up and have consecutive number one hits, or even just to drive a car or go to school. So many children who would give anything just to make a choice about what they will be when they grow up, and learn from their mistakes.

Ms Houston’s family tried to save her, but she didn’t want to be saved. My family can’t save James, and yet he wants so badly to live. She made her choice, James doesn’t have a choice.

So which one do you think is the real tragedy now?

A woman, with so much to give, and who had so much to live for, threw her life away by taking drugs. And I am not denying that it is sad. But what is sadder is that she had the opportunity to live, and she chose badly, whereas others will never even have that choice.

So today, I am crying. But I cry every day and it’s not for a talented diva who threw her life away. It’s for that little boy in the photo above who wants a life. And it’s a life he can’t have. That’s the real tragedy.

  • Wendy - HUGS to you and will keep you and your family in my prayers! Your son is very lucky to have you for a mother and you sound like you enjoy every moment of being with him which is wonderful~ I also share your philosophy on what happened so kudos to you… Stay strong for that adorable little man in your life and continue to enjoy living every day you have with him!!!ReplyCancel

  • Valerie Simmons - Well said! And u took the words right out of my mouth! Said the very same thing this morning as I am in a hospital room with my daughter that is having complications from treatment for a brain tumor! Was wondering if anyone else felt the same way! It’s truly sad and she was so talented! But she chose her path. Our children cannot choose theirs. And she wasted her chance. 🙁ReplyCancel

    • Sharyn - Thank you Wendy, and Valerie.
      Valerie, I don’t know you but I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. I have 2 friends who have children with brain tumours. One is a 7 year old boy, and the other is a 2 year old girl. I read their posts and my heart goes out to them. I know what is going to happen to my boy, and whilst it tears my heart out it also is a relief to KNOW. When kids have brain tumours, or any type of cancer, the uncertainty must be the hardest part. Not knowing if they will survive, not knowing if they will still be around in 12 months, 5 years, 10 years. I hope your daughter will be one of those who survives, and that one day you will see her walk down the aisle and make a family of her own. I think that’s what we all want for our kids – to be happy.

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